Friendship

2025-06-07 21:29
If I were to describe what friendship is, I would describe it as a very obscure connection you develop with people. I have had many friends in my very short amount of time and many of them are now barely a recurring thought, which does not frequent my mind often enough. The most unexpected realization from all this, though it should not be, is the fact that through no fault of your own, or theirs, through the passage of time and driven by our own needs, ambitions and circumstances, these relationships come to an abrupt end and are not very often reassessed or reinvigorated.

We were friends on the day, and the next we weren't

As an extrovert, it is often easy to view yourself, especially when you are surrounded by people who are less extrovert than yourself, as the more pleasant presence, the piece of the puzzle that holds the group together with your "unique" traits. This does, over time, develop into . You view yourself as the bond holding the group together. This opens yourself up to a more vulnerable position, as extroverts are often more empathetic, or at least they have more instances in which they are able to express themselves which instills a stronger sense of empathy.

Keeping in consideration with the above train of thought, you start to neglect your feelings and prioritize giving your opinions on the matters of others and viewing them as advice. You close yourself off to being helped by never showing your vulnerable side and allowing your friends' help. This is not sustainable.

You reach a point where, subconsciously, you begin to detach from your friends as, in your head, you are the bond and that they need you as opposed to the much more accurate you all need each other reality.

I think that it is impossible to ever stop being friends with people, primarily because you will never truly forget the times shared with a positive outlook, and you always remember everything as you remembered it the last time. This will snowball further with the passing of time as the fond memories will become more and more fond and outweigh any of the difficulties your friendship may have endured. You will always remember all of your friendships well, regardless of how things concluded.